Being too picky dating

16-Feb-2018 21:47

So an overweight person who is otherwise medium attractive will do almost as well as a medium attractive person who is not overweight. And what about men’s preferences versus women’s preferences?

OYER: Men, on the other hand, care a lot less about income.

Also, you’ll learn just how awful a person can be and, if you’re attractive enough, still reel in the dates. [MUSIC: The Mackrosoft, “The Game In F# Minor” (from Antonio’s Giraffe)] DUBNER: So you set up a profile, and your name is what? [AARON CARTER MUSIC] REED: And there is just no substance there in his music at all. [MUSIC: Seks Bomba, “It Takes Two to Tango” (from Somewhere In This Town)] DUBNER: So you created a profile for a girl named Aaron Carter’s Fan who likes to party and knock over homeless people, or at least their cups, and she’s a racist, gold digging, fake pregnant-getting, 25 year old girl, white girl. I asked my friend Rae Johnston, who is an Australian-based model and actress, if I could raid her Facebook photos and she very kindly said yes.

My female friends and my male friends all feel that this is true, like that men in New York and in cities where my friends live, everyone can actually feel these market forces and we talk about them. And I often imagine that I wish that I were from…I always think of the suburb that I’m from where most of the people are not like me like cultural attitudes or whatever.

And I think I’d be so much happier being there where I had almost no choice and where I would meet one person where it seemed like, like I could be happy with them. DUBNER: Now, it’s easy to get lost in the details of online dating and fail to appreciate what it represents — which is a new and, theoretically, improved way for one person to take a look around at the 7 billion other people on the planet and try to pick the right one.

So that makes sense that women should be more attracted to money than men to begin with. So someone to hang out with and if it turns into more that’s good?

[MUSIC: Two Dark Birds, “Run For Daylight”] DUBNER: Okay, so Paul Oyer knows a good bit about the rules of attraction in online dating – which, if you think about it, is just dating with a much bigger pool and a much better filter. He lives in New York, and he’s a producer at the public-radio show “On The Media,” and he co-hosts a podcast called “TLDR.” And PJ is a brave, brave soul – because he let us open up his Ok Cupid profile and pick it apart, on the radio: OYER: Have you been told before that you look like Ryan from The Office? I’ve been told I look like Andy from the office, which I take as a dig… VOGT: Yeah, option value sounds like a good way to put it.

Also, you’ll learn just how awful a person can be and, if you’re attractive enough, still reel in the dates. [MUSIC: The Mackrosoft, “The Game In F# Minor” (from Antonio’s Giraffe)] DUBNER: So you set up a profile, and your name is what? [AARON CARTER MUSIC] REED: And there is just no substance there in his music at all. [MUSIC: Seks Bomba, “It Takes Two to Tango” (from Somewhere In This Town)] DUBNER: So you created a profile for a girl named Aaron Carter’s Fan who likes to party and knock over homeless people, or at least their cups, and she’s a racist, gold digging, fake pregnant-getting, 25 year old girl, white girl. I asked my friend Rae Johnston, who is an Australian-based model and actress, if I could raid her Facebook photos and she very kindly said yes.My female friends and my male friends all feel that this is true, like that men in New York and in cities where my friends live, everyone can actually feel these market forces and we talk about them. And I often imagine that I wish that I were from…I always think of the suburb that I’m from where most of the people are not like me like cultural attitudes or whatever.And I think I’d be so much happier being there where I had almost no choice and where I would meet one person where it seemed like, like I could be happy with them. DUBNER: Now, it’s easy to get lost in the details of online dating and fail to appreciate what it represents — which is a new and, theoretically, improved way for one person to take a look around at the 7 billion other people on the planet and try to pick the right one.So that makes sense that women should be more attracted to money than men to begin with. So someone to hang out with and if it turns into more that’s good?[MUSIC: Two Dark Birds, “Run For Daylight”] DUBNER: Okay, so Paul Oyer knows a good bit about the rules of attraction in online dating – which, if you think about it, is just dating with a much bigger pool and a much better filter. He lives in New York, and he’s a producer at the public-radio show “On The Media,” and he co-hosts a podcast called “TLDR.” And PJ is a brave, brave soul – because he let us open up his Ok Cupid profile and pick it apart, on the radio: OYER: Have you been told before that you look like Ryan from The Office? I’ve been told I look like Andy from the office, which I take as a dig… VOGT: Yeah, option value sounds like a good way to put it.So you should be picky, you should be looking for a really good match. OYER: It’s a slow, steady…Your patience level should slowly and steadily erode. One thing he’s got going for him is that he’s using a big dating website, Ok Cupid, in a big city, New York.