Black women hate white women dating black men

11-Feb-2018 15:35

by Courtney Carter for The Huffington Post "…and when he get on he'll leave your ass for a white girl." Let me start by saying this, I know writing this article was going to cause quite a bit of controversy. I think I wouldn't really care if OTHER races felt this way, but the fact that my own men do, made me consider turning my backs on them multiple times.So let's get this out of the way: I am intelligent, not what society deems "ghetto" and from what I am told and from where I work in the television business, I am attractive. Let's start below: Black men don't like black women. My boyfriend and I were having a conversation (he is Black and Puerto Rican) about black men vs black women. We’re living in a white man’s world, they set the laws, the tone etc…for nearly everything. Edited and added: [(NOT ALL WHITE MEN)] don’t mean to be rude…js…”Here’s the truth of it: The average Joe living in Alabama in 1950 who loved the cute country girl did NOT have the power as an individual to change laws and social hierarchies that were established before he was even born.Tom is Mississippi did not have the power to NOT get fired from his job for having a black wife and half-black kids at home.Kendall, who pulls no punches when it comes to telling it like it T-I-IS said this. But the same women who didnt think enough of themselves to only give life, love, support and sacrifice to the black male who has EARNED it, is the same bw who now demand the white man hand her the world. We expect feats of strength, dismantling of systems, and for him replace the image of his own MOTHER with ours as some sort of downpayment on our love. We focus on LOOKS, HEIGHT, AGE and all that other mess that black people use to choose mates and dont even realize that if we want to WIN! Cuz I see a lot of Sistas who CLAIM to be open to IRR but are quietly SEETHING that they cannot get the BLACK man they TRULY want, and expect white men to REIMBURSE her for it through the meeting of ridiculous expectations to make up the difference. Black women don’t force black males to sit and watch documentaries on rape, molestation, FGM, child brides, breast ironing and all of the other Patriarchal madness that black men have a hand in with bw all around the world.It needed to be said, and those wise enough should take heed. Im kind of annoyed at the insistence many bw have that white and non-blk men slay every dragon and fight the powers that be in order to prove their love for us – yet for CENTURIES those same bw have demanded NOTHING of the black male. We want him to do for us al the things we NEVER demand our OWN sons do for us, and the reason why we do so is because we feel we should be COMPENSATED for the white man not being what many of us TRULY want – a functioning, protecting, producing BLACK one. They dont make bm sit and read bell hooks, Womanist Theory, studies on the 3x murder rate, 20x HIV rate, 11x Matricide rate, 60% molestation rate or any of the other negative effects black male sexism and hatred of Black Womanhood has on black women and girls.Black males are not excluded from the advent of Sexism – to the contrary they were the FIRST Sexists.

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But I thought in my head, "at least black women VALUE a black man. I see you struggle with your hair and I think it would be nice if he had my curly hair. I WILL get an attitude like any women would over normal things.

My boyfriend has beautiful soft curls, a genetic gift from both of his races. The rational part of me thought about what he was trying to say...

but no matter how much I replayed it, it still didn't sound right to me. Everywhere from pop culture to the hood, men are either consciously or subconsciously telling black women they aren't "wanted".

The focus on “Racism” with non-blk men is ridiculous in the face of all the UNaddressed bm sexism that black women live EVERYDAY, but never seem to feel the need to be at the forefront of their relationships with black males. To join her private black-woman-only email list, click here.

For more of Kendall’s wisdom, she hosts a black-woman only Facebook page that is exclusive. Contrary to what black women believe, Sexism PREDATES Racism.

But I thought in my head, "at least black women VALUE a black man. I see you struggle with your hair and I think it would be nice if he had my curly hair. I WILL get an attitude like any women would over normal things.My boyfriend has beautiful soft curls, a genetic gift from both of his races. The rational part of me thought about what he was trying to say... but no matter how much I replayed it, it still didn't sound right to me. Everywhere from pop culture to the hood, men are either consciously or subconsciously telling black women they aren't "wanted". The focus on “Racism” with non-blk men is ridiculous in the face of all the UNaddressed bm sexism that black women live EVERYDAY, but never seem to feel the need to be at the forefront of their relationships with black males. To join her private black-woman-only email list, click here.For more of Kendall’s wisdom, she hosts a black-woman only Facebook page that is exclusive. Contrary to what black women believe, Sexism PREDATES Racism.But…not for that white individual white man, who should have offered to leave his family, be disowned, fired and black balled from his job, risk his freedom and life, and with no income, no family, an arrest recorded and possible gun shot wounds, would walk off into the sunset with his black female mate and live off nothing but sunshine and air. We dont have to scrape the bottom of the barrel for ANY man, but after GENERATIONS of giving our ALL to bm who gave us nothing back, I think we are bit out of order to now expect non-blk men to show up be EVERYTHING we never demanded black males be.